I remember my mother holding me when I was very small and singing to me in her wavering off-key voice. She couldn’t sing at all but that didn’t stop her! I felt very loved as a child and in later years I wondered how she had learned to be a mother. Her mother died when she was three and she had a difficult, abusive, poverty-stricken childhood. She struggled with the effects of it her entire life—severe depression, lack of self esteem, a conviction she was stupid and ugly, etc.